Eleven Years

As I have every year on July 3rd since 2010, the anniversary of my first full year abroad, I like to take some time to reflect on the year behind and look ahead to the upcoming year.

What a year this has been.  When I last wrote a year ago, we were considering buying a house here in France.  We decided we definitely wanted to shortly after that and I started looking at listings, but we hadn't gotten any further than that.  Then one day as Cristian was walking home from the train station he ran into one of the men who works at the agency we rented through and he asked if we'd be interested in looking at a house.  A couple of weekends later we looked at two houses, and loved the 2nd one.  We were a little worried we were rushing things to jump into buying a house we saw on the first day, but it fit almost perfectly with our wish list, so we put in an offer.  Buying a house is a slow process in France, so it took around 3 months from then until we finally bought the house and we moved in on January 25th. 


Then, somewhere around 6 weeks later, just about when we were feeling settled and ready to host a house warming party, the whole world ground to a halt.  We were on a strict lock down here in France for 2 months.  I left the house once a week (with a signed affidavit saying where I was going) to go grocery shopping and Cristian didn't leave at all.  School was shut down and we had 3 days to figure out how to do distance learning. I'd never imagined trying to teach elementary school online and the first couple of weeks were a challenge, but I soon found some sort of rhythm, spending mornings conducting small group video calls and afternoons making video lessons and recording audio for powerpoints. 

Having a new house with a yard and garden was such a lifesaver for me.  Weathering lockdown is easier when you have a green space.  I started vegetables from seeds I got from the grocery store and despite my less than ideal growing conditions, eventually nurtured them to the point I could move them outside.  I'm still waiting on my tomatoes, but we enjoyed a harvest of sugar snap peas.  There's a mature cherry tree in our backyard and we had an amazing cherry harvest and tried canning for the first time, making jars of jam as well as chutney, barbecue sauce and cherries in syrup.

On May 11, we ended our super strict lockdown and things gradually started opening, including schools.  I was extremely anxious about wearing a mask all day, and nervous about reopening too soon and all of the measures we'd need to follow, but starting back to normal life really helped me mentally and emotionally.  And masks, while certainly not my favorite, turned out to be not as horrible as I'd feared.

School finally ended on June 30, and despite the nearly 3 months that I didn't teach in person during the school year, I'm still so ready for a break.  I have a long to do list to tackle this summer, getting ready for going back to the classroom again next year, perfecting my French, and doing some not-so-fun administrative tasks I've been putting off.

It's funny writing this 1 year update now that I feel so settled.  Presumably I'll be in the same country and same house for years now that we've bought a home.  But I still like the time for reflection- changing countries and jobs aren't the only changes in life! I'm hoping that the next big change I'll get to experience will be becoming a mother.  After all, we have this big house with bedrooms to fill now. 😉

Immigrant or Expat?

While still in Guatemala, a post about about expats versus immigrants was making the rounds among my very international group of friends.  I felt vaguely guilty as I read the article, which accused everyone who used the term "expat" (myself included) of abusing white privilege at the best, and racism at the worst.  After all, the article argued, why use one term to talk about mostly white people living abroad, and another term to talk about mostly non-white people living abroad?  It was a good point, I admitted, and I certainly never thought of myself as an immigrant, and yet, I still wasn't convinced I was WRONG to call myself an expat-there seemed to be a distinction in the two terms. 

Now, over a year later, and an ocean away, I feel more convinced I'm right because I no longer feel like an expat.  My life here is more settled, more (possibly) permanent, more locally administered.

For the first time ever, my salary is in the local currency. I earn euros instead of dollars, and they're direct deposited to my French bank account. My mother is probably glad that her days of depositing paychecks and making international transfers for me are drawing to an end. 

I own a car and I no longer have an American license (I actually don't have any license at all, just a very fancy temporary permit, but that's another story...). 

I have a residence visa here which eventually gives me the right to apply for citizenship if I meet the other requirements.  In every other country I've lived in I haven't had resident/immigrant status, even when I had multi-year visas. 

We purchased every piece of furniture in our apartment, which is such a difference from the pre-furnished and partially furnished apartments and houses I've had until now.

I have a French tax id number, and while I honestly know nothing about the paperwork since Cristian filed for us jointly, I'm paying into the French tax system.

It's hard (crazy? ridiculous?) to call yourself an immigrant when your employer, main bank account, driver's license, health insurance, and taxes are all in your home country.  But now that all of that is here (or moving here... health insurance is still a work in progress and the real driver's license might take a few more months) calling myself an immigrant seems much more apt than before, and calling myself an expat seems, well, mostly like white privilege- like I don't want to cast myself in the role of an immigrant, leaving my home country in search of better opportunities elsewhere.  I'm still not fully embracing the term immigrant (the word "permanent" is in the definition of immigrant, and we're not ready to commit to permanent, yet...), but in some ways, I am in search of better opportunities.  Five weeks paid vacation as a norm, universal (free) pre-school starting at 3, inexpensive college education, universal health care, and mandatory paid maternity leave (and even some limited paternity leave) are all things we consider as we think about whether to stay or not, and where we can envision eventually raising a family.  Also, the cheese.  Have I mentioned the cheese? 

What about you?  Do you consider yourself an immigrant or an expat? Or are you living in your home country, and never needed to consider how you define yourself on that level?

Another year, another country

July third- my 9 year anniversary abroad.  A day I like to stop and reflect on the past year and look forward to the next.

A year ago today, I was living in Guatemala, counting down the days to my wedding.   Yesterday, I sat in a car dealership office in France, signing paperwork with my husband to buy a car to commute to my new teaching job that starts the end of August.  A lot has changed in a year.

This year was full of joy.  Marriage is good.  It's really good.  I think especially after 2+ years of long distance I really appreciate the little things- meals together every day, lazy Saturday afternoons, chatting while we both do chores in the kitchen.  I find it deeply satisfying to share life with each other.

This year was rewarding as far as language growth goes.  I've gone from deer-in-the-headlights stage (French person: (how it sounds to me) "sgsodjfkjadjsaoijgsjglk" Me (in my head) "how many words was that? Do I have to respond? Was that a question, or were they maybe just commenting on the weather? Oh no, they're still looking at me. Maybe try the smile and nod trick) to buying vegetables at the market stage ("one kilo of tomatoes and a green lettuce please. Thank you")  to  writing my first essay in French (a one page piece on the pros and cons of television that probably sounds like it was written by a middle-schooler, but hey, that's better than a 3 year old, which is where I was a few months ago). I'm amazed at how far I've come in one year.

This year wasn't without its frustrations though.  What looked, on paper, like a simple, straight forward process for me to get residency here turned into a 6 month long paperwork marathon with piles of documents needed from the US, Romania and France.  While that's done now, more paperwork still looms ahead of me since even simple things like opening a bank account are less straight forward when you're an American living in France.

I'm looking forward to the next year.  I'll be working at a bilingual school teaching second and third grade come September.  While both of us working from home (and me only working part time) was a really nice way to start married life together, it's also isolating in a new place where I don't know anyone.  So, I'm excited to have coworkers and routines and frequent authentic chances to use French. Hopefully my French improves even faster when I use it to talk to coworkers daily, and try to understand children who are too excited about something to remember to speak English.  I'm also excited about the possibilities that having a car opens up. There are so many beautiful places it's hard to reach without a car. 

I'm also a little nervous about next year- going back into the classroom full time after leaving it behind 8 years ago leaves me with a lot of mixed feelings.  I love teaching, and children. But I also loved being involved at a level beyond the classroom, at having leadership opportunities with adults, and a broader range of influence, and I'm sad to leave that behind, at least for now.  I also remember how exhausting teaching can be, and wonder how having a full time job will change the rhythms that Cristian and I have gotten used to in our life together.

I imagine next July 3rd will find me still in France, finishing up my first year of teaching at a new school, nearly fluent in French, and with all my paperwork wrapped up.  But I also have a feeling there might be surprises in store that I have no way of imagining now. 

Adventures in French Cooking

Galette Complete 

Before moving to France, I'd been telling people that  I was excited about 3 things (besides the obvious of finally getting to be with Cristian daily)- wine, cheese, and baguettes, in no particular order.  My kitchen, once I was settled in, had much the same ingredients as before, except now with the addition of a rotating cast of cheeses, a couple of bottles of wine always on hand, and a few times a week a crunchy fresh baguette.  But slowly, surely, some more changes started to sneak in.

Poulet rôti épicé and Galettes de pomme de terre 

It all started with the artichoke.  I kept seeing them at the grocery store, looking for al the world like a normal vegetable nestled between the broccoli and the carrots.  Except, I was pretty sure I'd never eaten one other than as artichoke hearts from a jar.  On a whim, I picked one up and decided I would learn how to cook it.  As I paged through the French recipe book my Aunt gave me at my shower, I realized that this was maybe a bit more complicated than your average veggie, but finally figured something out and found the end result surprisingly satisfying.

Lapin a la moutarde

Next were the endives.  These intriguing, lettuce like veggies started appearing at the market in late fall and everyone seemed to be buying them.  I just had to know what made them special, so I did some digging and found a French cooking blog, in English, with an endive recipe.  Endives au gratin was added to our dinner menu for the week and I was hooked.

Now it's my newest hobby- experimenting with French cooking.  Sometimes the recipes are fast and simple like galette complete- a slice of ham, some shredded cheese, and an egg on store bought crepes. Others are more complex like lapin a la moutarde (rabbit in mustard sauce).  We've found some definite winners (mascarpone stuffed chicken breasts, anyone?) and some things we'll probably never repeat (celeriac- no matter how you slice it, dice it, and cook it, I'm just not a fan of this strange gnarly root vegetable), but I've really enjoyed expanding my culinary repertoire.  Now, the question is, what to put on the menu for next week, and who's coming over for dinner?

Tarte fine 

Crème de chou-fleur

Oh Christmas Tree!

As December inched nearer I had one overwhelming question- where could I buy a Christmas tree in France?

Out to do grocery shopping on one of the first days in December, I discovered an unexpected answer to my question: At the grocery store!  There they were, from baby trees to full ceiling height beauties, in a little shack built specially for them, nestled in amongst the carrots and onions.

I wanted to get one right then and there, but Cristian convinced me that walking home with all our groceries and a tree would be a little more than we could manage, so I reluctantly agreed to wait. 

Finally the day rolled around to choose a tree. It's not quite as exciting when they're already packaged in net bags and there's no comparing to be done, but it does make it a whole lot faster.  We carried it home across town, Cristian balancing the tree over his shoulder, and me hefting the half log with a hole drilled in it, its complimentary tree stand, on my hip. 

Despite my concern at the lack of water with a log instead of the tree stands I grew up with, our tree has held up just fine all season long.

The new ordinary

My windows have shutters.  Not the ornamental kinds I'm used to on American houses, but real, functioning wooden shutters.  I open them each morning, shuffling out in slippers stuck into sandals, or, on wet and cold days, just reaching out the window as far as I can, trying to push the shutter flat against the wall.  When I do go outside, the latches still make me smile, diminutive soldiers who hold our shutters open all day long.